Losing your job is a stressful situation but the reality is that if you have a family the impact of such a situation can be a lot worse. But do not worry, you are not alone. Being unemployed has an impacting on your entire family as well. When you are in transition, everyone else at home is in transition too. Here are a few ideas that can help you in the process…
Before you start, your need to take a minute to reflect. Are your career expectations aligned with the job market? Do you have a network around you helping you achieve your objectives? Do you have the means to make it through the process? Have you manage expectations with your children and your spouse? What is important to you at this point in time?
Being able to provide for your family can be very tough when you just can’t cover those expenses. It is important to make sure that you find a way to generate an income as fast as possible. You have a career to protect, however, can you afford to keep waiting until the right offer comes your way or should you take a job and keep looking for the right career later? Searching for a job and doing all you can to lower your costs and take care of your children is very important.
If your spouse still has a job and you don’t can also lead to marital conflict because they expect you to find a job and take care of everything else at home now that you have the time. This is a very challenging time for both of you and one that can lead to some major issues in the long run. Open communication is key to keeping marital conflict to a minimum.
What can you do?
There is plenty of help and solutions for you in the market. Here are a few ideas for you to consider but remembers: regardless of what happens, you need to include your family in the process. Your spouse and children are literally in the same boat than you. If you sink, they will sink with you!
- Find a Career coach. You need someone who can provide context and market knowledge to help you find the best prospects for you based on your skills and personal situation.
- Meet with your accountant or financial advising to figure out the best solution for you and your family according to your needs. If you do not have a financial adviser or accountant, it’s important to create a plan with a professional on this subject.
- You and your family might need to be proactive and consult with a family and marital therapists. Being unemployed is very stressful for you and everyone else around you. Family and marital issues can appear quite often after you lose your job so work with a therapist to avoid marital or family breakdown.
In the end, it all comes down to being responsible for what you say and do. Make sure that you place a lot of attention to detail and focus on keeping your spouse and your entire family aware of the circumstances.
Keep things in perspective. Losing your job is not the worst, losing your family is. Your career is very important… but your family should be priority #1.